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Of Nicky and the City
musings about life, love, sex, friendship and what-have-you's
Hi, my name is Nicky. I think writing is therapeutic, hence this blog. I like talking about myself and yes, I can be arrogant like that. I love dark chocolate and caramel. I have a sweet tooth. I love both football and rugby. I think Fernando Torres and Dan Carter are the hottest football and rugby players. Needless to say, I am also addicted to Sex and the City. This blog shows a different side of myself, I think. I find joy when I am debating (contest debates) or simply having interesting and intellectual conversations over some drinks. I also want to bungy jump. Or skydive.
*Current Obsession*
IVECO Series English Premier League FIFA World Cup 2010 English Premier League
*Current Favourite Movie*
The Hangover
*Favourite Teams*
The All Blacks Liverpool FC Spain National Team
*Current Scent*
Victoria's Secret Pear Glaze
*Current Footwear*
flat thongs football boots flip flops
*Current Thought*
Don't make decisions when you're mad. Don't make promises when you're happy.
*Current Schedule*
I work normal day shift hours now :)
*Current Drink*
Iced tea Bottled water
*Current Alcoholic Drinks List*
Red Wine Absolut Raspberry Absolut Kurant Bailey's Tetleys Guinness Chimay Blue Stella Artois Duvel Scrumpy Jack San Mig Premium
*Current Expression*
Oh fudge. Fucker! Oh shite. Bugger. Oh Gawd. Oh damn! Oh, fuck it! (guess where i got that from)
*Current Craving* Bollywood's Rogan Josh Murphy's fish and chips Don Henrico's buffalo wings Gelatone's ice cream North Park's fried noodles Cafe Breton's La Pinay Pad Thai
20212223 24 25 yo. shock absorber. debater. bubbly. mcchicken addict bitchy. sun-worshipper. Belgian beer lover. paranoid sarcastic. beach bum. health conscious. impulsive. espresso lover. bookworm. sports fan. wine drinker. coke light drinker. coke zero enthusiast. anglophile. arrogant. camwhore. text monster. huge rugby fan. buffet sampler. Twinnings enthusiast drinking buddy. perky. charming. Murphy's/TGIFriday's/Bubba Gump's/Cafe Breton's patron. slave driver. european football fan. lawyer wannabe. lactose-intolerant. ass-kicker. British accent lover. iPod addict. articulate. rapid speaker. has a dutch lover Liverpool FC fan. vertically-challenged. slick. cynical. sexy. red wine lover. likes older men. funny. hot. smokes occasionally. loves to laugh. inked. makes great pasta. Starbucks addict. does not like boys. likes MEN. timid child NYC lover. perpetual student. outspoken. free-spirited. outgoing. buxom. All Blacks fan. laughs easily. daydreamer. snob. liberal-minded. potato chaser. an intellectual bitch. audiophile a multi-addict - chat addict. internet addict. caffeine addict. music
addict. RT addict bookworm. voluptous. sentimental. food slut. sometimes gullible. tough
cookie. gypsy. hopeless romantic yet carnally-inclined. (syn. libidinous) believes in marriage flip-flop lover. geographically-challenged. has shallow happiness. does not watch TV regularly but is a Sex and the City addict. single by choice. hypochondriac. driven. stubborn.
intimidating. does not take crap. sucker for romance. boyish honest. candid. sometimes naive. crazy. insomniac. loves make-up. bohemian. spontaneous. hoyden patron
saint of people who doesn't go to class. self-proclaimed
love guru. wacky. jester. and let's not forget, my mom in
the Debate team nicknamed me as the so-called 'Fire of
Concupiscence' ... :)
i am a twenty something who talks and thinks like a forty year old.
i hate being called by my real name.
i love going to the beach; i'll be a 'masahista' there if i have to. HAHAH
i keep an online journal.
i love light blue by dolce and gabbana.
i am vain. need i say more? lol
i'd like to try sky diving and bungee jumping at least once in this lifetime.
i keep a close group of friends.
i can cook but can't bake to save my life.
i love the colour blue, and i'm thinking of getting my hair dyed in blue.
i was a tomboy in high school.
we have a dog, but i am allergic to dogs, or cats.
i only smoke when i drink.
i've never had a Filipino boyfriend. (thank gawd! HAHAHHAA)
you do not want to see me drunk, or tipsy.
i suggest you don't debate with me. HAHAHA
i am an inner geek.
i am a hopless romantic.
i do not watch television.
i am very transparent.
i have a propensity for caucasian men, in all shapes and sizes, as long as they are straight!
i love wearing flip flops.
i used to sport men's cologne back in high school.
i don't eat japanese food.
i dress up according to my mood - boho, preppy, corporate, funky, beach wear, u name it.
i did my thesis overnight, and i did not even have to revise it :)
i read everything i can lay my hands on.
i can't live without my music.
i feel naked without my phone.
i can sleep whenever, wherever.
i don't know how to skate, or roller blade.
one of my pet peeves is when i hear people refer to the word "traffic," like it is an adjective. ie, "it's so traffic!" instead of "traffic is slow today."
i spend most of my time online when i'm just home.
i love strawberries.
i talk in my signatured rapid english, only applicable in the 7 minute rush when debating.
i don't eat sinigang, or nilaga.
i don't like boys, i like MEN. white, older men!
i recently just found the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with. and that still surprises me. i've always been a pessimist when it comes to that, but not anymore
There's no combination of words I could put on the back of a postcard No song that I could sing But I can try for your heart Our dreams, and they are made out of real things Like a, shoebox of photographs With sepiatone loving Love is the answer, At least for most of the questions in my heart Why are we here? And where do we go? And how come it's so hard? It's not always easy and Sometimes life can be deceiving I'll tell you one thing it's always better when we're together
[Chorus:] MMM it's always better when we're together Yeah, we'll look at the stars when we're together Well, it's always better when we're together Yeah, it's always better when we're together
And all of these moments Just might find their way into my dreams tonight But I know that they'll be gone When the morning light sings And brings new things For tomorrow night you see That they'll be gone too Too many things I have to do But if all of these dreams might find their way Into my day to day scene I'd be under the impression I was somewhere in between With only two Just me and you Not so many things we got to do Or places we got to be We'll sit beneath the mango tree now
It's always better when we're together Mmmm, we're somewhere in between together Well, it's always better when we're together Yeah, it's always better when we're together
MMmmmm MMMmmmm Mmmmmm I believe in memories They look so, so pretty when I sleep Hey now, and when I wake up, You look so pretty sleeping next to me But there is not enough time, And there is no, no song I could sing And there is no, combination of words I could say But I will still tell you one thing We're better together.
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WTF is happening to LFC?
We have just lost our fourth game this season. I know, I know. It is not a sprint, but a marathon. BUT wtf. For crying out loud, that was just Sunderland!!!
I so hate international breaks in the middle of the league programme.
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Extension
Yay. He's here til last week of November. After three years, I'd be able to spend my birthday with someone special to me again. :)
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He said it!!!
And before I forget - yes, he does feel the same way too, and it's not bed talk.
I'm his first. The first person he's ever told I love you to. :) And well, he is the first person I've ever told I love you to in person. I've never told anybody I love them the firs ttime in person. It's always on SMS, or phone, or online chat.
"I'm normally slow when it comes to telling someone how I feel. But you - you make it so easy."
It's waking up in the middle of the night, shifting blankets and feeling the heat of your body next to mine. I turn around and see you in your most innocent state. I smile, kiss your face gently so as not to wake you. I turn around and a grin forms on my face. Then, I feel an arm wrapped around my waist. And I know, it doesn't get any better than this.
What I Will Probably Never Going To Be Able To Tell You (Thank gawd for blogs)
You're the only person who's ever treated me the way I want to be treated if I was to be in another relationship again. After my last relationship, I know I could not compromise not having someone I could not hold hands with. I know this might be a bit shallow. But I don't give a damn.
I love everything that we have going - the connection, the chemistry, the attraction, the passion - it's all there. The way you you hold my hand like as if we've always done that for a long time now, the way you show other people that you are with me/I am with you, the way you look at me when you kiss me, the way you smile when you touch my face, the way you look so gentle and loving, and just so adorable, the way you kiss me and the way you touch me. Everything.
If all those were just bed talks, I hope hope hope, that I meet someone like you who can treat me the same way you do.
It's been four weeks - and I've never been happier. :)
First Stop - Muddy Murphy's along Orchard Rd. I's also my first ever fresh pint of Guinness from the tap! :) Yum.
On my 1st ever bus ride in SG. We just had chicken rice dinner somewhere in Geylang (apparently,the red light district) and now just going to Clark Quay.
I finally got my fill of yummy Indian food. This was at the Lau Pa Sat Hawker Centre by the business district. I ordered the Chicken Briyani, it was about $5, and my iced coffee was round $1.80.
The main reason why I went in the first place. :) To watch the Liverpool game!!! We won. 5 - nil. Oyea baby!!!
I stayed over at Buffy's as well. This is the night we can't sleep. Had a feast of Mickey D's, SG style - I had the spicy chicken sandwich with curry sauce (fucking amazing) seaweed fries with mayonnaise and chili and Cornetto. Not that just made me hungry and crave SG Mickey Ds!!!
With Buffy waiting for the MRT at the Paya Lebar MRT station.
I miss SG already!!!
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RIP Cookie
My bro gave my sis a puppy for Christmas 2008, a golden retriever. :) She is called Cookie. Generally, I am not an animal person, but she is soooooo damn cute. :)
Unfortunately, we had the mistake of keeping her as a house dog. You see, we do not have a backyard. We live in the city and there's really not much space for a dog, save for the two-car garage.
So, Cookie is always excited to run and run and run whenever she'd go on her daily 'social outing' for potty. My Dad opened the garage door since he was debating whether or not to pick up my Mom and sister who were walking through floodwater to get home from the nearest LRT station.
Cookie ran out as fast as she could, enjoying the rain. A few minutes later, she was hit by a speeding motorcycle. Today, when most of Manila's cities were submerged in flood water. (Fuck you typhoon Ondoy. FUCK YOU)
We can't get her to a hospital since all roads leading to the nearest hospital, or any hospital at all, are flooded. I reckon she died due to internal bleeding - as she is not bleeding anywhere. She must have been hurt really bad, she can't even stand up. She tried desperately to..but it looked like she was in deep pain. A part of me is somehow relieved that she is in dog-heaven now. At least she is not in pain anymore, and even if she lived, I am not sure if she will like it if she will be limping and not going to be able to run like she used to.
Cookie (Nov 2008 - Sep 2009)
Cookie, as I am writing this, you are already sorely missed. I never thought I could cry for a dog before. We lost Brownie some 3-4 years ago. I thought we would never get another dog, till Siop gave you to Otts as a Christmas present last year. I hope you had a happy dog life with us. We will miss you terribly. I love you. Say hi to Brownie for us.
In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with …and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away?
I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a long time partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing.
It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will. The day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come.
Hopefully you’re single… but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about. You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?"
That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you’ll have in your life.
If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that if you’re already with the one you’re with, that this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright.
It’s never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different.
What do you do if it’s not yet too late?
Simple… find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee; ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away." You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference.
If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow. And it would be a great feeling, if in the end, you’d be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away."
So, finally - Mother Nature is giving us a break and for the second day this past 2 weeks, the sun has come out. Hurrah Hurrah! Now it feels like summer all over again - I reckon it is at least 34C today. What I would give to drink a cold one right now. Ahhh...
On other news, South Africa won this year's Bledisloe Cup. *bitter* First time they won this annual tournament since 2004.I am so crushed and gutted. It's beer o'clock time.
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Bangcock
Soooo looking forward to hit Bangkok in November. It should be a good 26th birthday gift to myself. I am going with my MNL couchsurfer friend Sheena - who's also my closest friend right now. We will be meeting up with Monette at the airport, and she has scheduled to be with us on the same dates as well. Excellent. :)
I've told Marc about Bangkok, and since it is much cheaper to fly fto Bkk than it is to Mnl, he has seriously considered about meeting me there. Hopefully, Marc can get some time off work round the same dates as well. It would be nice to see him again, and to finally talk things out. It it really just a fling, or the elusive real thing?
Khao San Road. Patpong. Sukhumvit. Pattaya. Ayutthaya. The Reclining Buddha. Traditional Thai Tattoo. Bungy Jumping. Pub hopping. Street food. Pad Thai. SOON!
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Big Little Boy
"It would suck to give you up."
"...I know."
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The Guy on My Wall
Just say you want me to be yours, and I will be. No questions asked. No but's, if's and and's. Just ask. It never hurts anyone.
Your Body is a Wonderland -- atleast he thinks so :)
I super LOVE love LOVE John Mayer. I think aside from Dave Matthews, and Howie Day, he is a real great lyricist. (I still think the Brits are the BEST lyricists ever, though. ANYWAY..) It is monsoon season right now in MNL, and well, as expected, the weather is all wet and rainy. It has been raining for days now and this entire long weekend.
The rain makes me want to stay in bed all day long, just being lazy - perfect if I would be with a really awesome guy who can make all the bed lazying an addiction. :)
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We got the afternoon You got this room for two One thing I've left to do Discover me discovering you
"You're really impressive."
-"Why do you think so?"
"Cos of these, all these, your clothes, the smell of your hair, your smile, your kisses - all very impressive."
One mile to every inch of Your skin like porcelain One pair of candy lips And your bubble gum tongue
"You have to forgive me if I stare at you. When I am with a beautiful woman, I can't help but stare and compliment her alot. I might also not gonna able to take my hands off you. "
- "No worries, I won't complain."
"That's good. because I won't be able to resist touching you."
'Cause if you want love We'll make it Swim in a deep sea Of blankets Take all your big plans And break them This is bound to be a while
"Oh god, you feel so damn good."
Your body is a wonderland Your body is a wonderland I'll use my hands Your body is a wonderland
"You are really so beautiful. You are just so perfect. Your body is just perfect."
There's something bout the way the hair falls in your face I love the shape you take when crawling towards the pillow case You tell me where to go And though I might leave to find it I'll never let you head hit the bed without my hand behind it
"You make is very difficult for me to let you go, but I know you have to go to work, so.."
- "I know, your kisses make me crazy."
"Hmm, what I would give to stay in bed like this with you all day and all night long."
You want love We'll make it Swim in a deep sea Of blankets Take all your big plans And break 'em This is bound to be a while
"You make me want to stay longer."
- "Then stay, don't leave"
Your body is a wonderland Your body is a wonderland I'll use my hands Your body is a wonderland
"You're exactly the kind of person I imagined you would be, and alot more."
Damn baby You frustrate me I know your mine oh mine oh mine But you look so good it hurts sometimes
Have you ever watched this movie - I forgot the title now, but it is the one with Jessica Alba and this guy Charlie (his name in the movie) They call him Lucky Charlie - because every time a girl has been with him, the next guy she dates proposes marriage and they live happily ever after ad infinitum (it IS a movie, so yea, it IS fiction) Whilst I do not think I am real life's version i.e., Lucky Nicky, I could not help but write about this.
My Dutch ex partner of 3 yrs is going to be a Dad soon, I think round next month. Suffice to say that he has found his ever after. Now... I was just doing my normal everyday routine when I got an IM from another ex. You know, the one I blogged about over a year and a half ago - the stupid military boi --
Thank you for being a friend and for sticking to your guns. The fact that you had not made any effort whatsoever in wanting to get back together made me realize what and who I want. I realized that the wisest and most practical way is to go for someone who wants you and still loves you. And so I went to Japan in July and married Tomoko. She is going to get her visa in November and I am quitting Iraq by October 23.
Alright - so that's two exes who have finally gotten what they have always wanted - unfortunately, not with me. I am genuinely happy for both of them. Whenever I have a failed relationship, I wish nothing but for them to be able to find their peace and happiness - albeit not with me.
